all this bullshit on tumblr at the moment in the trans male community is making me incredibly happy to be a man with trans history who doesn’t feel the need to spend my time mocking, bullying and generally disrespecting trans-identified children, gender-questioning or genderfluid people, or people who make different medical transition decisions to me. or those who have different needs and comfort levels around their own bodies, as everybody does.
the tumblr trans community is not the world. if you feel alienated by it, try somewhere else, or form your own communities that aren’t based on hated and mockery of people who are reaching out to other people. you are making your own insecurity so blindingly obvious, and it’s painful to watch. there’s plenty of resources out there and the people investing time in mocking others clearly have the time to put into it, so why not try something productive? form your own communities that represent your needs. don’t attack what already exists as it must be providing solace / information / social space to somebody or it wouldn’t be there.
what’s funny is some of these guys would probably call me a ‘girl’ for the way i go about my life (not that i give a shit, as i’m far too beyond feeling insecure about my gender because of some internet trolls). but i’ve seen this time and time again. people were talking about ‘transtrenders’ like 5 years ago and it was boring then, too. and what’s even funnier is like half these people bitching about it probably were ‘transtrenders’ in someone else’s eyes 5 yrs ago. it’s such a boring cycle to see perpetuated over and over, and what’s sadder is it has a real effect on young / vulnerable trans or non-binary people who are looking for support and instead receive such harsh responses.
the reason you don’t find tons of post-transition guys on tumblr is because tumblr is the most public website ever, with such an emphasis on content-sharing. i wouldn’t dare share a face pic of myself or revealing details on here about my personal life, because it could end up anywhere. if you want online spaces or communities for stealth, male-identified trans people, try places with privacy, like livejournal, yahoo groups, closed forums, etc. if you speak to me privately, i can point you in the right direction of where these places exist as they aren’t as easy to find. you’re bound to feel like you’re outnumbered on a website which, trans community aside, is largely populated by younger teenagers anyway.
also, just a thought - maybe try going outside, investing time in your real life. become the person you want to be. instead of making it so abundantly clear over the internet what you’re not, and taking down whoever you want to try to prove it.