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purplegoesbothways:

femmesandfamily:

this. read this.

This is why I’m glad I’m not attracted to men as a man. Cis gay male culture typically has no room for us and I can only imagine it’s pretty hurtful to be erased like that. I cringe when I hear cis men tell trans men ‘But I’m gay’ or TW: Misgendering from the lgb community ‘But you’re a girl/I’m not into girls.’

i couldn’t feel more differently to that. i am so so glad i am gay. i can’t even imagine how i would navigate being trans as a straight person. being gay is great and i don’t feel limited at all by being trans. but i’m sure there’s probably privilege and stuff contributing to that. there usually is. but even so.

i found this article interesting but i guess it didn’t resonate with me too much - i mean, i do think trans people aren’t exactly included in your average ‘gay male culture’. but it’s not an ideal place to be if you’re older, or not skinny, or ‘too-feminine’ or whatever else, either. i guess i just don’t feel more discriminated against than any other minority within that community, but i guess i do have the advantage of being generally perceived to be young, acceptably non-feminine, & cis. and i am white. so maybe i’m not as sensitive to it. but i guess what i’m saying is i don’t feel estranged.

i do rarely see trans people referring to ‘gay men’ to ever mean anything other than ‘cis gay men’ though. it would be nice, if, as a start, it was less common for people to use ‘gay men’ as a synonym for ‘cis gay men’. because if we don’t even think about ‘gay men’ to include trans people then i don’t see how anyone else ever will.