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queersecrets:

[image: a black and white photo of a man embracing another male from behind. text: I just want this with a gay male. I don’t want it with a bisexual or pansexual male. I don’t want to say I’m trans. I want to say I’m a man. I just want to be a man, no complications. I’m afraid I’ll never be happy.]

i find this a little bit sad to read. the thing is you can have all of these things, you can be trans and just be a guy and be with other gay guys. although i don’t really know why it’s so important that a guy not be bisexual - it doesn’t really make much difference in my experience, but i suppose i understand that it can be validating.

i haven’t had lower surgery or anything, so i guess some people would look at my life and think there are complications there between me being a ‘normal’ gay man, but i don’t feel the presence of any complications anymore. i am just a guy, and it doesn’t feel like my trans history / body particularly complicates that. you can and will be happy, but i think part of achieving that goal is having to accept the reality of the situation you’re in and make the best of it. sure it would have been nice to not be trans, but i am, but i still have the sex / relationships that i want, and that’s okay. i think it’s achievable for anyone with a little confidence.